I know this is not about getting the mirror, but in the event it helps someone I thought I'd mention that we've found that tinting the windows has made the auto dimming rearview mirror unnecessary and are fine when a car doesn't have it now. You can probably do just the rear window cheaply just to try it (doing the full sides obviously helps too but it depends on your state's legal status regarding tinting the driver/passenger windows and how you want to work with that). Guess the tint really only applies with a coupe since it clearly won't help if the top is down
Anyways, that's what works for us in terms of cutting headlight glare at night and sun in the day too, hope it helps someone
*As a side note there when I was on BMW boards there were occasional reports of auto-dimming mirrors failing and leaking and making a mess so it made us a bit less enthused about that option.